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48 years how amazing! I love how you shared how you are heard and validated. This is so touching and made me smile thinking of you two.

Thanks so much for sharing these wise words with Sweet Tea & Friends this month my friend.

xo

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And thank YOU, friend. You always arrive with heaps of encouragement.

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Yay for you two! Congratulations!

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Thanks, June!

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Apr 5Liked by Linda Stoll

congrats and may you have many many more years together!

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Jean, thanks, friend ...

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Apr 5Β·edited Apr 5Liked by Linda Stoll

Forty-eight years...I can't even count that high.

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Tender is not what I do,

vulnerable not in lexicon,

and I think part of Barb doth rue

the road, way back, we started on,

thinking I would surely change

from the knuckle-dragging beast

just in from the open range,

but I did not, not in the least.

I wake her with Suspicious Minds

blasting on the stereo,

and then open wide the blinds,

for baby, it is time to go

and meet the morning's siren call

like bull headlong into a wall.

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'the knuckle-dragging beast just in from the open range'

LOL!

God bless you, Barb.

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Apr 5Liked by Linda Stoll

I figure Barb's lucky to share this space with the King Of Cool.

Ayyyyyyyyy!

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sending an eye-roll from MA

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Apr 5Liked by Linda Stoll

Don't let your eyes get stuck, rolled back. You got nice eyes, and you don't want to look like a zombie.

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Sounds like something my grandma would have said (without the zombie thing)

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Apr 5Liked by Linda Stoll

Congratulations on such an amazing milestone of 48 years of marriage Linda! I love how you shared about the learning to speak each other's love languages - such a blessing to have that understanding in your marriage! It's so true that sometimes just listening is the better option, than trying to offer advice to "fix". Thank you for sharing that! May the Lord continue to pour out His blessings richly on you both!

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Oh we all yearn to be heard ... and hate being fixed!

Let's hear it for kindness and compassion in all our relationships. Have a lovely weekend, Marilyn.

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Apr 4Liked by Linda Stoll

Aww! Happy Anniversary. That's a long time to know and love each other.

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Who'd have ever guessed how quickly the seasons would come and go like gusts of wind ...

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Apr 4Liked by Linda Stoll

Happy Anniversary, Linda. It sounds like you both are blessed by the other! Beautiful!

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Lisa, thanks for being here with me.

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Apr 4Liked by Linda Stoll

Happy Blessed Anniversary 😍 Love the beauty, rawness and truth shared πŸ’ž

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Maybe vulnerability only makes the beauty shine brighter ...

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Apr 3Liked by Linda Stoll

Congratulations to the two of you for working through all the mistakes, misunderstandings, and problems to produce a golden example of marriage--working together, supporting one another, and blessing each other! P.S. Love that surf-side kiss--so sweet!

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'working through all the mistakes, misunderstandings, and problems' + 'working together, supporting one another, and blessing each other'

Yes, you've spelled it out so beautifully, Nancy. For sure. I get a bit suspicious when a spouse says they've never had a disagreement with their mate. Um ... something's off kilter.

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Happy Anniversary Linda!!! Such a precious post!

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Donna, thank you ...

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Being seen and heard and NOT fixed is such a gift! Celebrating with you this anniversary and the ways you are still growing in love. πŸ₯°

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Sue, your words are an encouragement this evening. Thank you for being here! I look forward to getting to know you in the days ahead ...

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Apr 3Liked by Linda Stoll

Happy Anniversary to you two! May God bless you with many more years together as you serve Him! We celebrated 51 years in February, God is good!

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You've had a year, Pam. I'm guessing that number 51 might have been the sweetest celebration yet. I hope you and Butch are well.

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Apr 3Liked by Linda Stoll

Happy Anniversary, Linda! πŸ’• God bless you and Tim with lots more years and a deepening knowledge of each other and of God's love language. :)

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Trudy, thanks, sweetie. And yes and amen to a deepening knowledge of each other and of God's generous love toward us.

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Apr 3Liked by Linda Stoll

Happy anniversary! It's good to know we're a work in progress all along the way and always have room to learn to love more and better. We just celebrated 44 years together in December. I loved our newlywed years but wouldn't trade them for the relationship we have now.

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I absolutely hear you about not even thinking about trading this season for those newlywed years. Life together is richer, stronger, sturdier, and calmer in this season. And oh I'm so grateful.

Meanwhile, congrats on 44 years. What a wonderful month December must be for you and yours.

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Apr 3Liked by Linda Stoll

Happy Anniversary! It is beautiful to journey together through life and help one another grow. We'll be married 45 years in May and it is a journey I have cherished both with the Lord and my man :) May the Lord continue to be with you both, blessing you with His love and joy!

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I love what you're saying about this being a cherished relationship with both God and our husbands. I couldn't agree with you more, Joanne.

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Apr 3Liked by Linda Stoll

I am new to Grace & Space but today's post spoke to me. This month my husband and I will celebrate our 52nd anniversary. Where has the time gone? Congratulations to you and yours on your anniversary. Enjoy!!

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Joan, a great big welcome to you! I am so glad you're here and I want to congratulate you on 52 years. When I was little that number seemed absolutely ancient but now it seems natural and attainable.

But meanwhile I look forward to getting to know you better in the days ahead. Thanks for taking the time to sit and chat this afternoon ...

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